Forgive, Forget or Both?

Okay so I'm a little confused right now but not in the bad kind of way. Read and see if you can understand what I'm trying to say. When we,ve been hurt for a wrong reason by someone we truly loved, from someone we didn't really expect it from, what is the right thing to do? Forget about the person completely and totally ignore him or her or do we still be friends after everything? Forgiveness like I mentioned in an earlier article is a god like quality because not many people can carry it out. But my question is when we,ve been hurt to the brink of self destruction can we forgive someone and act as though nothing happened or do we forgive them and ignore them totally. Is that really forgiving a person? If it gets a little confusing, I can understand. What really is forgiving a person? Personally I don't think that one can claim to forgive a person and then be cold hearted and absolutely ignorant to the fact that this person exists. After all it was some one who was very special and close. So then again I ask people what really is forgiving a person, no matter what they have done? If they try to rectify it, what is the limit one can handle or does that depend from person to person. Forgive and forget(cold shoulder treatment)(is that really forgiving), forgive and be friends or don't forgive and just forget? Which one seems right? After the same person has brought you to the point of self destruction. Ill leave that to you to decide.